The In-Between: Balancing Your Dreams With Your Responsibilities

                      Life, everything existing outside our own bodies.

                      Life, everything existing within our own bodies.

                      Feeling lost between both states of being, life.

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We all have a dream, a desire to live our lives a particular way, but so many of us get lost in between how we think we should be living and how we want to be living our lives.

Personally, I constantly find myself somewhere in between thoughts of work and ways to earn money, and thoughts of art and ways to enliven my soul.

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See, it is interesting how money, which is at the root of our existence, is simply an idea, someone else’s idea. Steve Jobs said in the PBS documentary Steve Jobs-One Last Time “. . .everything around you that you call life, was made up by people that were no smarter than you”. This makes a lot of sense to me.

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(Unfortunately, I have the “free plan”-this is a screenshot of my Tumblr post. Here’s the original video.)

For example:

Let’s go back over two hundred years. . .

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It is 1790 and Alexander Hamilton thought, ‘You know, the Bank of England is super nifty. . .the United States should have one to print, distribute, and store money too!’, so he proposed the National Bank to Congress.

As the year progressed the proposal gained supporters and opposers. Thomas Jefferson was definitely an opposer. . .or hater, if you will. When President Washington asked his cabinet for their input Jefferson explained, ‘This whole National Bank business is for one, unconstitutional. And two, if it does exist, it is going to favor the wealthy only, so that is not cool’.

Jefferson’s ideas did not influence Washington enough, instead, Hamilton’s became a reality in February 1791. Eventually, the National Bank would lead to the creation of the Federal Reserve in 1913.

Today our lives, in regards to money, were partially formed from the thoughts and proposal of one individual, despite the efforts of another just as smart individual.

Moral of the Story:

“. . .everything around you that you call life, was made up by people that were no smarter than you”.

So, going back to those dreams we abandon for the life we are currently living:

“I want to *insert action* but do not think I can because of *insert reasons*”

The only person holding us back from living our best life is ourselves.

That dream we have resigned ourselves to never achieve is out of bounds only because we placed it there. There are millions, billions of people who are living solely in comfort zones and wishing life would pave the path towards their dreams. Instead of working towards them we end up believing that they, we are futile. So we pursue the “logical” path-the path we think has less risk. But less risk does not always mean greater payoff.

We need to stop waiting for the right time, and the right way. There is no perfect moment where every little detail of our lives is going to align. There will always be bills we need to pay, vehicles we need to fix, chores we need to complete. But there is not always going to be an opportunity to travel, to see our favorite artist live in concert, to take a chance on our dream job. The dying know this best.

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(Not my image. Find the original here.)

“Regrets of the Dying” is a punch of reality in the form of a blog post written by a former palliative nurse, Bronnie Ware. In the post, Ware details the five most common regrets of persons during their final weeks:

“. . .1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others

expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. . .”

Clearly, each regret shares a theme-desire to have lived authentically.

 

I am young. 22 years young to be exact but I have realized life is too short to not be living it exactly how I want to be.

I struggle with balancing who I think I am supposed to be based on societal standards and who I know I want to be based on my soul standards. I worry I am not working enough. I worry I am not writing or drawing enough.  I feel bad for wishing I had been born in a European country and a 20 hour work week was my normal and not 40 hours. I feel guilty for not wanting to work overtime. I feel afraid I will never get to travel, leave this country. I begin to feel like my life is a continuous series of unfortunate events (shout out to Lemony Snicket aka Daniel Handler) that I have no control over.

But I am realizing, all of these worries and feelings of guilt are simply fear. Fear of living my best life. Fear of breaking the unspoken rules of society. Fear of failing. Fear of succeeding. I am realizing I can live life however I want. See, personally, I grew up thinking until very recently we need to have money, and lots of it, to travel the world. From reading travel blogs and websites like Nomadic Matt or Great Big Scary World and watching TED talks like “How to Travel the World With Almost No Money” I have realized to live out a dream of traveling it does not require as much money as it does guts. And I think that can be said for just about anything else.

Now, I am not naive and am not trying to say that money does not matter and is not necessary. I am not trying to say I do not want to earn money and make a living and meet my responsibilities. I guess I am just trying to say there is a balance between outer and inner reality. . .and we have much more control over both than we often realize.

Moral of My Story:

There is no better time to be living, to be creating the life you want to than right now. Yes, reality, life is the way it is BUT it is the way it is because billions of single ideas were ran with. And one of those ideas could very well be yours, mine, ours. We are capable of changing not only our lives but life as a whole.

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Life, everything existing outside our own bodies.

Life, everything existing within our own bodies.

Feeling like the creator of both states of being. living.

Want to get more information on the first National Bank of the United States? Here are some sources:

Hamilton, Jefferson, and the First National Bank of the United States

A Timeline of the National Bank

*Not every image I own. Copyrighted or public use images/videos are linked and used as fair use.

Copyright Disclaimer under section 107 of the Copyright Act of 1976, allowance is made for “fair use” for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, education, and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing.

 

 

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